NOTE:
This article is only for an acknowledgement.Day by day specially in Israel incidents of affairs has been risen up.Every person has his/her own opinion and philosophy about the life.They all have rights to live their lives as they like.But sometimes our decision puts our lives in the tears of ocean.'Time and tides waits for no man"Once it went out, we cannot rewind it for rearrangement. we must think twice before while we are about to take a step.So especially we are talking about the marriage care givers who have affairs with different caregivers .Some caregivers prefer affairs with other caregivers. Being with someone who understands, without having to say a word,sharing the arrows and beating for loneliness. It is not only based for particular nationality they may be from same country or even different country. In fact, many of these caregivers surprise themselves by having affairs.Men commonly remark that they wish they had the energy to have one girl friend !So lets talk about the types of Affairs first.
Three types of affairs, common among this group, trend differently for men and women.
- Hooking up, a non-emotional connection for the purpose of having sex, is chosen by more men than women. Men seem to have easier access to this.
- Traditional affairs are preferred by more women than men. These are longer lasting, with an emotional as well as physical component.This types of affairs seems between the single persons.They have rights to choose the appropriate life partner.This is the true love affairs.
- Emotional affairs are the most common for both masculines. The caregiver becomes emotionally connected with a partner but never crosses that physical line. Many online affairs fall into this category.
When do affairs start?
Mostly care givers works and stay in employer's house in 24 hours.Its really a big challenges to them.Some of them have a holiday once a week and some of them have holiday once a month.After arriving the Israel really they in full of pressure.Every minute they have to ready for their employer.They do not have option to choose even that is day or night.They have to do everything associated to the household work as a house wife,making a appointment to the doctor,taking to the out side ,giving medicine at the right time ,dressing diapering, feeding.bathing etc.They have to be a parents of the old man,they have to lift up the employer,wake up at night frequently every thing that you all know very well about this profession.Day after day they feel alone and helpless and feel that they need some one to kill his/her loneliness.Then they start to search the good friends near over the area.On shopping or at a medical center or on the buses or in the garden where daily they go according to the nature of job.
According to natural phenomena , male attracts female and female vise versa ,when they find appropriate person ,first fall in the friendship relation. Daily activities of meeting,talking,sharing the feeling and problems etc make them closer.And finally one of them purposes to be the lover.
What do affairs cost?
- Guilt, whether religious or otherwise, is a constant with all affairs. It’s greatly intensified if caregivers are with their lover when their spouse is rushed to the hospital - or dies.
- Dignity, self-respect and pride are lost. Surprisingly, some feel they also gain these from the affair.
- Free time is lost attending to a lover, and unexpected emotional complications may arise – particularly if the lover wants more than offer.
- Trust is lost when the affair is discovered. Like all affairs, along with retribution from family members,husband,wife. legal action may be taken and assets lost – particularly devastating when decades of caregiving have already depleted assets.
- Financial lost:Involving an affair they must trust on each other.May partner offers financial fund as a lend and later run away. which is your outcomes of hard works.
- Pregnancy problem :Lack of contraceptive in hurried situation or desire open seduce of male partner may causes the pregnancy problem.If its occurs female has to put her life on risk for clearing uterus.This may in future cause female infertility when she needs baby in future.
- Affairs usually end, so hurt is almost inevitable. Caregivers may end an affair, hurting their lover, because their spouse is still their number one commitment, and number one love. If a caregiver is the rejected lover, it’s devastating because they’ve lost their lifeline. They may fall into a double depression facing both the death of the affair There may be nobody to talk to about this since their lover was their only confidant.
Besides this If something happens to the employer while they are out to fulfill his/her physical need basically at night ,care giver will be in police custody for punishment .Hidden camera can explain the activities that really care giver does in every single day at work place. So Care givers can be caught easily at any activities against the forbidden rule of Israeli law.
So care giver must think twice about the affairs with other married caregivers.Life is not finish in some spending years in aboard.All the family members of their country are awaiting for them.They have trust that he/she is a good husband,wife or a parents of children.For some pleasure need not to loose economic and social value on the family and society.Making a good friend is really a better idea than making affairs with the married care givers.
Singles and divorced are also to be conscious from this situation because mostly married male lies and pretend to be single.Married male has habit of seduction. Because of long gap with their wives they search for their physical need only. Must be done deep survey of the particular person if he/she likes to make a traditional affairs. Divorced person also must follow the rules of single.They have to find the person really who bears the responsibility of father to their children if they have.
All have to keep in mind that" who am I? and for what reason my family has given this opportunity ?All are awaiting for my goodness.All family including my society will be affected if I crossed the social norms and values."
Whether to condemn or condone affairs, or to feel you are self-indulgent or critical to survival, are deeply personal considerations. Thanks ..share if you like for awareness.
By a caregiver...